Q & A

I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own.   Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?

No one is perfect and has it "together" all the time. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason isn’t working right now. Perhaps the problems that you are dealing with feel overwhelming and is making it difficult for you to access your past strengths. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again to resolve problems that you are experiencing now.

What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?

The difference is that a mental health professional is trained and able to teach you new skills;  how to gain different perspectives;  listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself.  Furthermore, working with a therapist will ensure your privacy. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing your business.” A therapist has been trained to use evidenced-based interventions to help you work through your mental health issues. A therapist is a professional, not a friend or a family member, and is looked at as an impartial third-party.

Why shouldn’t I just take medications?

Taking medication is great for treating many of  the symptoms associated with your depression or anxiety, such as insomnia, low mood, panic symptoms. Medications, unfortunately, can not treat all the things associated with your depression or anxiety. As a psychotherapist, I will work with you to explore the root of the issue(s), dig deep into your behavior(s), and teach you strategies that will help you better deal with your problems now and in the future. Research has shown that medication along with psychotherapy can give you the best outcomes especially for moderate to severe mental health issues.

How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?

Each person has different issues and goals for psychotherapy and I tailor my therapeutic approach(es) to fit your specific needs. For some people it takes a little longer to build rapport and trust. It may also take a little longer for you to develop your specific treatment goals. It may take a little longer for you to successful implement the interventions that I give you.  Our first sessions will focus on establishing rapport and your treatment goals; you will learn interventions to address your problems; you will practice interventions outside the session; we will discuss progress or lack of progress; we may add new goals or adjust your goals; and lastly we will terminate after you have met your established goals. All of your sessions are focused on meeting your goals. My goal is to help you meet your goals in the least amount of sessions possible, so you can get on with your life. Psychotherapy is not meant to last forever, but I will be available to you any time you face new problems.

How long will I need therapy?

"It takes as long as it takes". You are all uniquely different and present with different mental health issues along with differing duration and severity of symptoms. Some mental health issues, such as depression and anxiety, are quite easy to treat using a short-term evidenced based interventions such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). You can have some symptom relief in as little as 3 sessions. There are several short-term therapeutic interventions that are often successful in treating several mental health issues in as little as 10 sessions. This depends, of course, on your commitment to the therapeutic process.

I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?

I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions! Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. Psychotherapy sessions are generally only once a week so most of the "real work" must be done outside the session in the "real world". I recommend that clients view psychotherapy as a short-term investment of time, money, and emotional energy. Setting the expectation that this is time for you to really work to finally experience the changes you’re seeking, can help you get the most out of each session. This mindset can also help you better apply the insights gained in your sessions to your regular life, and can shorten the time you may otherwise have spent coming to therapy.

I'm not getting out of therapy or coaching what I think I need. Can I have a refund?

Unfortunately, I do not offer refunds for psychotherapy services. If I provide a service to you I have spent time preparing for that session, reserved a time specifically for you, as well as given you my clinical expertise. I do offer refunds on coaching services.  You will need to review my refund policy in your life coaching agreement for more specific terms.  I encourage you to talk with me about any concerns or needs that you have. If you ever feel uncomfortable about something that is said or an intervention that is used during a session, please don't hesitate to let me know. I will do everything within my power to make your therapy or coaching experiences positive and rewarding for you. You must remember that therapy and coaching is going to be work on your part. You will get out of it what you are willing to put into it.  

Call me at (336) 443-5535 or securely e-mail me at [email protected] to schedule an appointment.